Posted by Devin McGlynn on 11/13/2012 to
Comparing yourself to someone else can be very dangerous and detrimental to your self-esteem. Here are ways to stop comparing yourself to others:
- First, recognize that you’re setting yourself up to fail. The second you begin comparing yourself to someone else, you are setting a benchmark that does not come from you. Instead of you being the “norm”, the other person is.
- By essentially basing how you feel about yourself on someone else’s scale of normalcy, you’re creating an external system of self-esteem. Instead, your self-esteem needs to come from inside of yourself.
- Notice when and why you compare yourself to others. Do you feel insecure about a certain part of your life or yourself? If so, work on building up your confidence in that area instead of comparing yourself to someone else.